Today, more than ever before, we each need to be patient with others and potentially more importantly, we must be patient with ourselves.
Below are three ways to calm down and reset yourself.
Will drivers who are now on the road again be more aggressive and ruder than ever before? Many drivers may act exactly this way.
Will people cut lines and attempt to score a table or a reservation without regard to those who are waiting, now that restaurants are open for the sit down serving of meals. Quite possibly.
Will someone allowing that extra space we have grown accustomed to doing everywhere, find others swooping in ahead of them. Sadly, very likely.
Of ALL of these examples one thing is for certain, we are not in control, nor can we control the behavior of others. What we are able to control is how we react to other people’s behavior and how we behave ourselves.
So if you’re feeling your face getting flushed red, your blood pressure rising and you’re about to say something or do something you’ll regret later – it’s time to calm down and reset yourself.
Three Ways To Calm Down and Reset Yourself
First – Wherever you are – in an office setting, zoom – driving in your car or out running an errand AND SOMETHING SET YOU OFF – Slow down your breathing, and begin to take in longer and deeper breaths. Breathe in slowly through your nose and hold your breath slightly longer than usual. Then slowly and easily allow your exhale through your nose.
Continue this slow and intentional slow down breathing exercise for at least two minutes and preferably for five minutes. You will find yourself in a calmer state than you were when you started the deep breathing exercise.
Second – in the safest, most polite way and as quickly as possible, remove yourself from the immediate contact situation that SET YOU OFF. If you’re driving your car, slow down or pull over into a rest stop. If you’re on a zoom meeting go to mute and stop video. If you’re with a group, excuse yourself and go outside or to another area.
Removing yourself from the immediate contact point of the reaction will have an immediate calming effect.
Third – seriously when is the last time you took a meaningful break or a vacation? No – not a couple of three or four day weekends. A seriously real removal from your regular routine for at least seven days. Preferably ten days to two weeks or more.
Minimize electronic contact with work matters during this time frame. Everyone needs to reset themselves in order to be able to continue to perform optimally. By not taking a serious break for a year, or two, or longer you are not only doing yourself more harm than good – you are doing a disservice to your family, friends and your career/business.
PAY ATTENTION to yourself – TAKE CARE of yourself.
MAKE IT A POINT to follow one or all of these three ways to calm down and reset yourself – TODAY.
Mitch Tublin is the CEO and Founder of Wenkroy International LLC a boutique consulting company with a main focus on adding value to people. Through Speaking, Training and Coaching lives are changed. My passion is to take people to the next level in their life and in their career or business.
