When you speak first is it in the form of a question? So you may listen to the other person first?
“We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say.”
― Zeno of Citium, as quoted by Diogenes Laërtius
Ever notice how certain people feel they must be the one speaking for the majority of the time when you are interacting with them? When it is your opportunity to speak, they cut you off and interject or finish your thought the way they want it to be finished? The point is their finishing up of your thought is not what you were going to say.
“One of the greatest ways you can affirm value in another person is by giving them the gift of your undivided attention, the kind of attention that says, “I hear what you are saying because I value who you are.” You don’t have to agree with someone to show them their value as a person. Listening demonstrates that any person you meet is worthy of your respect and attention.”
― Joe Jordan
Think about yourself as if you are the other person in your conversation. What would that person want most in the conversation? Exactly right – to know that the other person is really interested in what they are saying and is listening to them.
A question for you is do you consider yourself to be a really good listener?
Now ask a few people you have contact with on a regular basis – a cross section of people between work, family and outside of these two areas of life. Ask them if they would offer a real honest answer to the same question – do they think you are a really good listener.
Rather than getting defensive when you hear their responses to your question – take a deep breath and pay attention to what you are hearing.
“One of the greatest gifts a leader can extend to customers and employees is to listen to them.”
― Hugh Blane
It has become more rare than ever as it seems as if everyone is in a rush.
News is consumed in sound bites without the slightest consideration of the source. Most people have their head tilted downward with their eyes glued to their cell phones. A cup of coffee is no longer savored and the taste and aromas allowed to be a moment of enjoyment. No! It is the largest size cup purchased to go and consumed in the fastest time. This is the badge of honor.
The ability to listen when a person has something to say to you has become a skill so rare it is really impactful and appreciated by others. This is true in business, in your family life and more.
Take the time to become a better listener. Seriously, listen to me, it will be worth your efforts.
Mitch Tublin is the CEO and Founder of Wenkroy International LLC a boutique consulting company with a main focus on Strategic Business Consulting, Training and Business Coaching. Our passion is to take people to the next level in their life and in their business. Are you interested in having Mitch speak at your company or event – click here?
