Have you noticed no one is talking about New Year’s Resolutions any longer?
Did you give up too?
Well it is the middle of February and this means more than half of the people who made that New Year’s Resolution to lose weight, go to the gym, eat healthier, quit smoking, save more money – have either not even started or have already stopped. Did you give up too?
How can we resent the life we’ve created for ourselves? Who’s to blame, who’s to credit, but us? Who can change it, any time we wish, but us?
In actual fact the deck was stacked against most people right from the start. Either the goals they set were way too big and not realistically achievable or they set too many goals at once. We all want to see some type of results to keep us going, right?
What happens is we don’t–
- start out with a written plan with a timeline
- stay motivated and committed to our goals
- see big results way soon
Blaming, whining, deflecting accountability, risk aversion, and resistance to change are but a handful of symptoms of the adversity-beaten individual and organization.
Paul G. Stoltz PhD, . Adversity Quotient Work
Here is one thing each of us can do right now to get back on track or to set and achieve a goal we set today…
Find an Accountability Partner
Ask a person you trust to hold you accountable. Hand them or email to them your goal once they accept the role. Agree on how often you will update them and how often you will both speak, or meet in person or chat via skype or zoom. For example this might be one time a week on Monday evening at 7 PM by phone or video call. You will agree to send them an update prior to the call of your progress since the last time you both met up.
Most goals people set are not achieved because they are not held accountable for them. When goals are made in private they tend to fall off because people stop being motivated, stop focusing and stop prioritizing.
Bola Onada Sokunbi, Goal Setting To Live Your Dreams
In a perfect situation you would be the Accountability Partner for the person you asked, as well, for a goal they intend to achieve, however, this is not necessary and often it is not the case. The important aspect is full trust. You are both in agreement this is a personal matter not to be shared. Honest and total feedback will be the key from the Accountability Partner back to you. No one wants to learn that their goal to lose thirty pounds with photos is being shared by their Accountability Partner on social media with all of your friends except of course – you.
An accountability partner is able to perceive what you can’t see when blind spots and weaknesses block your vision……and he or she watches out for your best interest.
The really cold, hard facts are that you must want with all your heart and with all your soul to achieve the goal you have set for yourself.
Whatever the goal is and definitely if it is a stretch goal every ounce of your dedication and motivation is going to be needed to overcome the obstacles which will get in the way.
Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.
If you are really serious about making your goal a reality why not share in the comments area what your goal is and when you will achieve it?
Mitch Tublin is the CEO and Founder of Wenkroy International LLC a boutique consulting company with a main focus on Strategic Business Consulting, Training and Business Coaching. Our passion is to take people to the next level in their life and in their business. Are you interested in having Mitch speak at your company or event – click here?