There are two types of people. There are Givers and there are Takers.
Feel free to go right to the comments area and let us know which you are and why.
Here is the thing – How you do anything, is how you do everything.
In our time here on earth we have multiple aspects to our lives and in our interactions with other people. My name for this is The Compass of Life™. We have our career, our family, our social, our health, our spiritual, our educational to name some of the main areas.
Would you say you are a Giver or a Taker for each area?
Take a moment and grade yourself. Seriously consider how you act and what your behavior is like. Are you a Giver or are you a Taker? As you move through this process how do you feel about yourself?
For example – if you are certain you are a Giver, do you ever feel you wish someone gave more to you? Do you ever feel “I love to give, but when do I get?”
For example – if you are noticing you are a Taker, do you ever feel you wish you took more or that you are owed more than you take? Do you ever feel “They owe me more.”
Consider these two statements and consider which statement you identify more with.
A. “You know you can’t take it with you, so I am going to have a great time and spend everything.”
B. “For every single dollar I earn I give at least ten percent to charity immediately.”
This is not an article about judgment. It is not for me to judge you or anyone other than myself. As a side note, are we not the harshest critics of ourselves when we really take a deep look inside ourselves?
The real question to consider is this one – If everyone is a Taker, who will be the Giver?
While – Everyone may be a Giver and everyone may be open and receive.
Think through these concepts and consider how might these play out in dealing with your customers, your staff, your co-workers, your family, the barista at Starbucks and anyone else you may come into contact with once or multiple times each and every day.
One closing thought – if you have an idea or a concept – if you have song to sing or a book to write – and you do not act on these – you do nothing with any of it – the idea, the concept, the song, the book, they die with you. Are you a Giver? OR are you a Taker?
Mitch Tublin is a business consultant, executive coach and professional speaker who resides in Stamford, CT.
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Sue Painter says
I don’t think most people realize that the habits that dog them are the very ones that keep them from achieving what they think they want.
Lisa Manyon says
Great food for thought. I think it boils down to clarity and boundaries. I’ve been pondering this a lot lately as I stand my ground to ensure the giving and the taking are in balance.
Tandy Elisala says
Mitch, great article and food for thought. I’d like to say I balance both giving and taking.
Trudy Scott, Food Mood Expert and Nutritionist says
You’re posing good questions here. I too like the balance. I also actually like to think of it as receiving rather than taking 🙂
Mary Ellen Miller says
Mitch great point about giving the talents that we have so others can share in them!